Dear Frustrated -
in response to the desperate search for decent sober guys on campus, i can only say that there is no patented method. the traditional paths still work - friend of a friend match, study group, sober acquaintance at a party (non-hookup), or just even a friendly initiative at the library, cafeteria, etc.
as a guy, i wonder the same thing. the frat. hook-up scenario is not that fulfilling and is always awkward in the days after. this is a problem - i feel as if i approach someone at a party and (seemingly sober) attempt a conversation, i have lost already. that is, the girl is already thinking i want to hook-up simply because i approached her. sex is not the only thing on our minds. sometimes we wish that women would be a little more inviting and maybe try to initiate things.
at this stage, i have found the dating scene (ie dinner, movie, etc.) is hard to find - but if you look hard enough, it is there and worthwhile. give the guy something to achieve. if you do this, and if his "head" is in the right place, both of you will be successful. |
